We all have some failed relationships on our record. The bad news is that letting go of someone never gets easier, especially if you’re not the one who came up with the idea to go your separate ways. Luckily, there are a few things you can try in order to “win the breakup”. Or, you know, to at least keep your dignity intact moving forward. Check out this article to find out more.
Breaking up is hard. Having your heart broken is even harder. Maybe you’ll cry a little. Maybe you’ll punch a hole in the freshly painted wall of the bedroom you two shared for a while. Do what you got to do, since there’s no one-size-fits-all remedy for the situation you’re in. However, there are a few ways to make sure you’re not going to lose all that’s left of your dignity moving forward.
Although being dumped is no cake walk, it doesn’t mean you have to feel like a loser forever. A breakup is a marathon, not a sprint; and winning is all about managing to get through it and become a better version of yourself in the process. Wondering what to do to become victorious? Here are some tips that will help.
1. Wallow For a While
You’re sad, so it’s normal to indulge in a post-breakup mope-fest for a few days. Listen to Taylor Swift. Watch mushy rom-coms. Eat impressive amounts of junk food. Spend your entire day in bed or read romance novels online and feel even crappier about your love life. Drink wine – lots of wine.
Taking time to mourn the relationship is necessary, as long as you don’t take too much of it. The second you start feeling a little better, put some pants on, eat a salad, and leave the house.
2. Don’t Drunk Dial Your Ex
As tempting as it may be to reach out to your former significant other after you’ve had more drinks than recommended, don’t. Nothing good can come out of it. Best case scenario: they don’t pick up. Worst case scenario: they do, and you end up babbling incoherent things whilst sobbing uncontrollably, until they finally take enough pity on you to hang up. You’ll damage your already-shattered dignity even more. Give a trusted friend custody of your phone if you go out drinking. It’s safer that way.
After you’ve just broken up with someone you really cared about, the thought of being with someone else might make you cringe, but you need to get back out there. Dating will remind you that you’re still a catch with a lot to offer. And if you’re not looking for deep connections, it’ll at least remind you that there are plenty of other attractive people out there who would still like to see you naked. And that should make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
4. Give Them Space
Even if you’ve parted ways amicably, don’t grab lunch right away or too often. Not many can pull off a friendship after a breakup, and things can get awkward very quickly. What if they mention seeing someone new? You may not be ready to receive the news in a public place. It’s always best to find these things out by stalking them on Facebook. That way, no one will see you throw a fit or cry for 10 minutes in the fetal position.
5. Don’t Overshare on Social Media
And since we’re talking about Facebook, do your best to keep your profile free of any post-breakup drama. Oversharing is never cool, so hold back if you’re looking to win this breakup. No sad song lyrics. No passive-aggressive status updates. No photos of you half-naked, hoping to make them jealous. Simply update your relationship status and keep going like nothing happened. Instead of wasting your time trying to come up with the perfect tweet to grab your ex’s attention, go out and meet some new people.
6. Become a Better Version of Yourself
This is the most crucial part of the entire break up process. You’ve got some extra free time now that you’re single, so use it to improve yourself. Get a gym membership and turn all that anger into muscles. Put in some extra-hours at work to get a raise. Reinvigorate your wardrobe. Start a side project that becomes insanely successful. Take on a new cool hobby, like rock climbing or home brewing. You’ll be a better version of yourself and that’s all that really matters.
To sum it up, it’s pretty simple. Don’t stalk them. Don’t cast voodoo spells. Don’t call them so much they’re tempted to change their phone number. Instead, remember the good moments and don’t let the past loom over your future. Take a deep breath and keep in mind that every moment that goes by brings you one step closer to being over them. Most likely, things didn’t work out for a reason, even if you don’t know what that reason is yet. It’s time to move on.